creating you

Too many times I am asked “How do I find the right man?” or “How do I know she is the one for me?” The problem is everyone seems to still be believing that it is merely about (find your love) when it is all about becoming able to accept true love.

Being an artist it is easy to picture this analogy…. mixing colors as I go through the painting process, adding as I go. This blog is for the artist in each of you.

We are all born a white canvas… as we experience life splashes of color is added, if you have a good childhood, or had a bad childhood, when you loved, how you were hurt… we either accept what people have decorated on us or we decorate ourselves.

Slowly but surely there is no more white, some change color drastically through time others change very little. When once you were a soft pink, with dots of gold, as you experience heart ache, and trials, accomplishments and achieve goals, you change; you might change so much so that there is little left of your softness and dreamy nature.

As we change so do others…. The mate that is for you…. right now as we speak is changing their colors and collecting their designs. If you meet them right now on this day, you would look them over and disregard  as “not my style”, you would see that you clash in every way. (a green next to a purple!)

When we are content in who we are and what we are… When we are finished decorating and being decorated we can say “I am ready to compliment what I am with someone else” then when you look around and see a person that fits who you are, and they sees you fit who they are. No more “looking for love” It was there all along, Well, there is no question “do we belong together?”

Your eyes are opened to the way you complement each other completely and MOST important thing is that from that point on, you can trust in the fact that there is not that much change left and if there is change it is done together, so in 10 years they still match you.

There are exemptions to this rule. Some people do not change much or can change to match other people in those cases high school sweet hearts can remain married, women can give up their dreams and personality to meet their families needs and be semi-happy. But do not hold your breath.

Better you do what you are supposed to be doing. BE YOU, design, decorate, educate, experience, mix those colors until you are just the right shade you that you need to be to match that future mate, and somewhere out there….your “true love” is doing the same.

Sometimes all we need is boost of excitement and quick look at the future to keep us going .. faith is hard to come by but be assured your true love is out there, get a reading from me and see just how close.

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What is Love

what is love

You know that fuzzy feeling between being awake and falling asleep.. that feeling of just being so comfortable and letting go? The knowledge that nothing bad will happen and trust you will awake tomorrow. That is love.

I know you are confused. Falling in love is this dramatic firework being shot off in your heart, or the excited beat of your heart when you see that person.

Actually…. No it is not; those feelings can be brought about with a scary movie or too much coffee. Trust me when all the fireworks fade and that heavy heart beat slows what you will wish you had was warmth of trust and comfort that true love brings.

Romantic love has its place and no one should deny that the flutter of eye lashes and shaking hands are not signs of what will come; but understand that when you date someone and you have those feelings it doesn’t mean that at that moment you are in love, rather you are in-love with the possibility of love.

It is what inspires love poems, love songs and it is what fuels the dating sites like match or chemistry or the alike.

Love for a mate should be interchangeable with a Friendship love, the fact that sex is healthy in a relationship is a given.

It gives a couple the closeness and shared pleasure that create trust and bond, but true love should never be based on sex. Relationships that run solely on sexual needs and romance fade over time while those that rely on companionship last for the long hall.

Last but not least you know it is love when it hurts. Love hurts, not just feeling failure or damage done to pride, but a pain that only comes from a lose like death.

Most of the time younger people mistake anger for this mourning, but anger is more of a selfish feeling that comes with admitting you lost a game or feelings of ego.

When you are truly in love with someone you do not want to say good bye because they have become part of you and compliment the person you have become.

Not knowing what love is about is what many in life face, wondering why they have been divorced 3 times, why no mater how hard they try and pick through perspectives like interviewing for a high paying job and still the relationships go awry.

It is discouraging and depressing. But you will not know 100% by the way a person looks, their birthday, or education if they are right for you and a good match.

Love is blind to qualifications and until you feel that warm comfortable trust that doesn’t make your heart beat fast but rather slows it, you will not have felt love.


Love Spells that Work

casting love spells

Wanna learn the do it yourself love spells that work?

Warning: the effects given by these love spells are intense, so think wisely who you pick for casting love spells on,  (find out if they are married, psychotic, or a shim) for their attraction to you is irreversible.

Magic love spells are not solely mystically based and the reality is that most witchcraft is only considered mystic because of the lack of understanding the world has.

Even the practitioners them selves do not truly understand the how it works. Rather they say it is all the “spirits”.  Most do have scientific answers unproven “yet”

A look at the psychology behind a powerful love spells:

An individual loves what makes them feel good and in some cases becomes addicted to a feeling brought on by the effects. Drugs for instance is used to create a feeling of euphoria, it makes you happy, makes you feel good, copies a feeling of love.

A person is drawn to be with someone that makes them feel good and all you have to do is be there when they experience that feeling and the trigger is associated to you.

So let’s look at the scientific method:

Pheromones  are released when a person is sexually aroused. These pheromones have been attempted to be manufactured by cologne companies and some claim to say they have been successfully reproduced. you can add to this effect by using a pleasant comforting perfume (vanilla, cinnamon or sweet perfumes)

When you are sexually aroused the smell is detectable by the opposite sex subconsciously but still detected causing their body to react, equaling a sense of arousal. “That happy feeling” is associated with you.

Optical triggers also are detected, the flip of the hair or a blink or a stare at the right time is given without you even noticing that you are throwing them out, but they are very well received. Same with the tone change in your voice.

Now back to casting love spells:

attracting loveWhile talking with the person targeted, you need to have control of your ability to release the sexual pheromone and no matter how hard you try to control your efforts, just thinking a person is attractive is not enough.

Picture yourself in an arousing act of a sexual nature (use your imagination) do no drool but you get the idea. You are aroused, pheromones fly, voice changes, physical mannerisms and they react.

Some react right away others have a delayed reaction or need multiple chances to have long hard in-depth conversations with you. Just have fun with it and be prepared for real results.

If you need some love spells white magic help from a professional, feel free to contact me.

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Love Again How to start Over

starting over again in love and life

If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. Period.

….So you think life is not fair and everything you have tried to succeed at has failed ?

Perhaps your marriage has failed, lost your job, or maybe the problem is not a loss at all but that you have not really obtained anything to loose. Life sucks!

Many people get depressed when things go wrong; they turn to counseling or medication. I had tried my share of counseling and medicines.

One thing that I found out about both is neither makes your life better, it just changes your way of looking at a bad situation. And sometimes that is all people really need but that does only work for a few.

What about those lives that should not be veiled or looked through with rose color glasses. Sometime acceptance is not the best course.

For me it was an epiphany. After years of counseling and some tries at medication I had faced a realization that I either had to change my life or deal with a life in hell.

I had a cheating spouse that had posed as a helpless sex addict, a victim of his own disease. But what did that make me if he was the victim? (I was stupid) trying to change the unchangeable, council the unwilling.

I had woke up one morning and just decided that no amount of medication was going to make me love again or happy to be with a man that could never be faithful. And no amount of counseling is going to make me see that my life is perfect.

The only way I was going to be happy with my life is if my life was something worth being happy with.

How to start over is as simple as enrolling in class one week, getting a job the next, having a few paychecks under your belt, grabbing a bag of personal items and leaving.

I did and I slept like a baby. Never once did I regret taking charge of my life again. Never once did I wonder would I or my children do better if I hadn’t changed my life.

Life after divorce isn’t easy and I will never tell a person to take the decision lightly but in some cases the question has to be asked. Is it better for my family to stay together or for me to be dead?

It’s all about taking this information and making it work for you.
This is your life no one has to live it but you.

It’s not the end if your life is undesirable and maybe it isn’t really bad enough to quit your job, putting all your efforts behind finding a satisfying job.

Or putting everything aside to pursue getting a degree. The grass is sometimes greener on the other side but if you truly do feel that life is not all it could be, you have only yourself to blame and change begins the day you wake up and realize nothing will fix its self.

There is only one thing more embarrassing then a 50 year old non-traditional student or a person finding them selves back on the dating scene trying to find love. That’s a person that has given up on happiness.

Nothing is impossible!

Getting off welfare, getting a life, going back to school, getting a job that you enjoy or finding love again need only first be dreamt then make a set of plans to achieve.

How did you manage to start over? Comments welcome!

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