Cheating Spouse Signs and How to Catch a Cheating Husband or Wife

catch cheating spouseNumber one topic asked to psychics has to do with love. I guess because that seems to be one of the few things that individual’s feel they have no control over.

I am often asked to read someone’s cards and they wish to know if their husband or wife or partner is cheating. As much as I would like to dash their fears more times than not the cards will say yes they are.

Why? “ Because you asked”. Confused? Let me explain.

When an individual comes to me and asks if their spouse is cheating, they already had questions in their mind to begin with. They saw the signs of an affair; they knew even subconsciously that it was happening.

We all have a sixth sense, some stronger than others and even more important some have the experience of knowing what that “feeling” is when sometime isn’t quiet right.

The knowledge of knowing when is a good time to listen to the sixth sense or intuition and following that gut instinct is the difference between a fearless leader and a follower.

My advice is given as a reminder that even though they feel something is happening it is not always so, but most of the reason you come to me is not to actually know whether your spouse is cheating but to get a kind of proof and way to tell yourself you are not crazy.

And although the cards may say yes, they are being cheated on, and may even go into detail as to how long I have been cheated on.

The real test begins with – How do I catch a cheating husband or a cheating wife? It used to be that adultery was against the law in the US, now it is only in New York and then it has to be admitted or proven through pictures or video.

No the real thing broken in infidelity is not the law but trust and for most people that crime is worth punishing.

I suggest to some of my clients signs of an affair. Here are a few:get proof of cheating partner

  • Do they look you in the eye anymore? (Embarrassed of their behavior and feel ashamed)
  • Do they stay out longer then usual? (Depending on the time either actually cheating or making calls to the other)
  • Doesn’t leave cell phone out to be looked at? Has it on vibrate or off when home? (So you can not see the calls coming in or read out going calls)
  • Nothing seems to get done around the house when left home alone? (Perhaps not really staying home)
  • Secretive of e-mail ID and password, closes computer when you walk up? (Talking with the other)
  • Do they go through a cycle of arguments, usually argues right before weekend or before going out with friends? (For them to justify undesirable behavior)
  • Do they wear cologne to go to the hardware store? (Don’t laugh it does happen)
  • Bath almost as soon as coming home, or decide to do laundry?

“Now, for the fun part.”  Let me help you get that proof of infidelity, but before we begin, make sure you know what you will do when you do get what you are looking for.

  • *Buy a cell phone just like your spouses and open the battery, with a screw driver or knife break one of the battery wires the attach to the inter workings of the phone. Dead phone that will have no charge can not be used. You keep their phone safe and note all incoming calls for a day. They get the broken phone, thinking they will charge it later.
  • *Phone taps can be bought at any radio shack along with a tape recorder that plugs into your land line phone andstarts to record only when the phone is in use. Heck there is even good software that does the job for you.
  • *Redial on the phone after being gone all day
  • *While your spouse is on the computer do something to create a controlled emergency so that the computer is left without being closed. Unscrew a water line under a sink, burn food and make fire alarm go off, you get the idea.
  • *Change cars with a friend and follow your spouse. Wear a hat.
  • *Don’t get in trouble at work but call home more often but make sure you have thought of good questions to ask also good for calling them at work too.
  • *Ask for a day off or say you are going to be gone all day then return home to get something or stop in to say you missed them.

Remember that all of these are good ways to catch a cheating husband or cheating girlfriend but ask yourself what if this is all in your mind; be sure YOU are not caught.

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Cheating Spouse – Forgiving Infidelity

cheating spouse-relationship adviceThe issue of a cheating spouse is a difficult one shear because of the emotions involved, the answers are neither easy to accept or give.. It is a maze of he said she said and in most cases years of repetitive warnings that went unrecognized or unaddressed. That’s even if you have proof.

I am the first to suggest a councilor, get a private investigator, consult a reliable psychic for direction and pull on your family and friends for support.

After all is said and done it is not about how having an affair came to be, but how you will react to this situation now that it has arisen.

So many people have advice on the subject and it is impossible to say that it is cut and dry but I will give you a clear simple equation to work your way through the bull and deal with the real issues.

1. Start by making a list, write down the pros and cons of your relationship ask yourself the real questions. Has this happened before? Is this the only issue we have? And would you have been happy in your relationship if this had never happened?

Many people are too emotional to be rational and that is to be expected; but without taking control, you will find yourself either enabling the cheater to continue or you will find yourself lashing out in retaliation. Lists help you see on paper what the real problems are.

2. Do not make rash decisions, give yourself time to adjust and process the shock, now would be a good time to separate you from the problem. Quiet contemplation and a chance to feel what it would be like to be alone, or feel the freedom and see you can live without them.

3. You can not just ignore and it will go away. After you have taken account, absorbed it, and weighed some real options it is time to address. No matter if you do feel hurt or betrayed remember that the person you are talking to is still the same person you fell in love with.

You need to see them for what they really are – “Lost” . Now, that doesn’t mean that you have to be the one to adjust your life and help them through this. This is their path and their travel, you would be doing them a disfavor to openly forgive and forget.

There are real reasons for infidelity, and once a cheater usually always a cheater. But once the accused is proven guilty it really is up to them to decide to change or embrace their crime.

The Liar….Not only to you but also to them selves by committing the act and by thinking that they loved you enough to be with only you.

Innocent Victim….A victim of their own libido and incapable of self restraint, this one can not stop and usually is the one that repeatedly cheats.

The Fallen Angel.…A momentary loss of morals due to outside influences, lack of attention, stress at work and seduction.

The Follower…. Being sucked into the American dream of self satisfaction, this one has a real personality flaw that can not be fixed.

Forgetful Love….For one reason or another they have lost their original goal of faithfulness that they committed in the beginning of your marriage. This is the most used excuse and weakest. The out of site out of mind theory is NOT ACCEPTABLE. “You remembered your vows”

Now that you have evaluated your relationship, weighed your option, and diagnosed the disease. It is time to make the real decisions. What are you willing to give up? (Your dignity for comfort) (Your sanity for security) (Your time gambled for hope) (Family for personal satisfaction)

There is always a chance that it may never happen again but there has to be a price paid and your mate is aware of that and will consider themselves lucky to be given a second chance.

I guarantee you that if you openly forgive and forget without showing your insignificant other that they almost, almost lost you for good, there will be repeats. But forgiveness is something that comes only because you choose to release the weight on your heart not as a gift to an individual that you trusted and deceived you.

What’s YOUR relationship advice on the issue of cheating spouse ?

If you feel that your lover is cheating and need a second opinion, click onto the (Psychic reading) tab and follow the props, I can do a reading telling you what is really happening, or ways you can catch them