Love Again How to start Over

starting over again in love and life

If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. Period.

….So you think life is not fair and everything you have tried to succeed at has failed ?

Perhaps your marriage has failed, lost your job, or maybe the problem is not a loss at all but that you have not really obtained anything to loose. Life sucks!

Many people get depressed when things go wrong; they turn to counseling or medication. I had tried my share of counseling and medicines.

One thing that I found out about both is neither makes your life better, it just changes your way of looking at a bad situation. And sometimes that is all people really need but that does only work for a few.

What about those lives that should not be veiled or looked through with rose color glasses. Sometime acceptance is not the best course.

For me it was an epiphany. After years of counseling and some tries at medication I had faced a realization that I either had to change my life or deal with a life in hell.

I had a cheating spouse that had posed as a helpless sex addict, a victim of his own disease. But what did that make me if he was the victim? (I was stupid) trying to change the unchangeable, council the unwilling.

I had woke up one morning and just decided that no amount of medication was going to make me love again or happy to be with a man that could never be faithful. And no amount of counseling is going to make me see that my life is perfect.

The only way I was going to be happy with my life is if my life was something worth being happy with.

How to start over is as simple as enrolling in class one week, getting a job the next, having a few paychecks under your belt, grabbing a bag of personal items and leaving.

I did and I slept like a baby. Never once did I regret taking charge of my life again. Never once did I wonder would I or my children do better if I hadn’t changed my life.

Life after divorce isn’t easy and I will never tell a person to take the decision lightly but in some cases the question has to be asked. Is it better for my family to stay together or for me to be dead?

It’s all about taking this information and making it work for you.
This is your life no one has to live it but you.

It’s not the end if your life is undesirable and maybe it isn’t really bad enough to quit your job, putting all your efforts behind finding a satisfying job.

Or putting everything aside to pursue getting a degree. The grass is sometimes greener on the other side but if you truly do feel that life is not all it could be, you have only yourself to blame and change begins the day you wake up and realize nothing will fix its self.

There is only one thing more embarrassing then a 50 year old non-traditional student or a person finding them selves back on the dating scene trying to find love. That’s a person that has given up on happiness.

Nothing is impossible!

Getting off welfare, getting a life, going back to school, getting a job that you enjoy or finding love again need only first be dreamt then make a set of plans to achieve.

How did you manage to start over? Comments welcome!

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