How to stop being a bitch?
Well a politically correct statement would be “how to curb your attitude?” politically correct or not you know you are a bitch and just like that 12 step program admitting your disease and you are ½ way there to recovery.
Let’s start by asking ourselves what it is that brought us to this realization?
Did a peer call you out on it? Or did you look around and wonder where your friends went? If it is the later of the two then the work is a little harder.
Looks like you have crossed the point of no return as far as those friends go but no worries there is a world full of people willing to be abused by you so we will move on.
Bitches really have little to do with the original context “female dog” referring to the darn right mean attitude female dogs have towards a male dog right before being ready for breading, straight vicious in some instances.
In contrast depending on the culture to be called a bitch can also mean that the female dog wants to always have sex and placing that in a human way would imply the woman is promiscuous, even a prostitute.
So if we know what a bitch is and how you are being a bitch it should be fairly easy to change our ways and then we are no longer a bitch with an attitude. Not so….
Remember that although we make our own decisions there is the outside factor. What about those people, that seems to just bring out the bitch in you with such ease and is ever so capable of pushing buttons?
Relax… before opening your mouth to argue back or planning the next rival’s demise just sit back and listen. This attitude you harvest from your own self doubt and perhaps even loathing transformed as pride, pompous and pin point defiance in the eyes of others.
You are guarding your very soft heart with “hardness”. This outer shell is not you and even if you were able to keep friends they are essentially not “your” friends. They are your make-believe you’s friends
Although we can understand why we do what we do, we also must change or suffer.
If I let people in to my life, if they know my secrets, or have access to my feelings: they might judge me, hurt me, or tell others about my fears and feelings.
I have no doubt that these are real fears and they can happen but at the same time while you fear and protect you also miss out on all the beauties and closeness of life.
I do not care what others think because this is my life and I am the one put in charge of it. Those judgmental people do not affect me, save or fail me and they do not pay my bills, in that respect I build the pride in what is in the inside.
I choose to glow rather then flame drawing people to me rather then repelling, finally mastering the difference between a hateful bitch and a self assertive proud entity.
Take a deep breath and value your energy and effort. smile and turn away from arguments and moments of drama… Believe in what you feel as being righteous and correct no matter if they know it or not. This is your world so be the Queen with integrity and reign over it with dignity. Being a Bitch BITES
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