Breaking up is sometimes a hard decision. Many people stay in bad relationships for that reason alone. Is it enough to just be unsatisfied with the way things are to decide to leave, Does it really take a dramatic turn of events to break up, or should I put my needs aside so other people can be happy? I am no martyr, and no one else should be either.
There are too many other options; even families with children can separate with little pain if both parties are open to being civil. It starts with Accepting that there is nothing wrong with each other. Understanding that everyone is perfect at being themselves, no one should change to fit anyone else. But not everyone belongs together.
No one can truly understand what is in each other’s heart, scars can run deep and weather couples have slowly drifted apart or drama has created rifts that cannot be repaired the same phrase is described in divorce court “irreconcilable differences.”
Often people change with time, it is what we do in life, we grow and learn, nothing ever stays the same, you are not the same person you were when you were 18 compared to the person you are now. It is the underlining plan of God that we change, evolve due to our environment, and although it maybe one sided people do fall out of love because of those changes.
Lets face it, feelings get hurt when love is involved, but are they really upset with you for not being who they thought you were? That would be like being mad at the neighbor for not falling in love with you… it makes about as much since. I am a living breathing feeling individual with dreams and desires, those may not be the same dreams and desires as you, and for that I am less of a person and I do not deserve to live a life focused on obtaining those dreams and desires? Come on…. The differences that we all have are what bring variety in life, but not all differences can co-exist.
In the past few years you have changed, we all have changed, people decide they don’t like the same foods as they did in the past, perhaps you don’t enjoy the same activities, or the same close, we change friends, even change a job they once loved… it is the cycle of being. Some couple change together, some do not.
The key is to walk away from each other with the same respect as going into the relationship.
You are perfect the way you are
But that doesn’t mean you are perfect for me